There is some good news, however. We were sent paperwork from the court giving us the opportunity to submit a report on the children's adjustment, behavior, and conditions. These reports will be distributed to all parties involved in the hearing. The paperwork has some very specific questions to answer about each child as well as an "open comment" section where we have the opportunity to speak freely (the poor fools, they obviously didn't know to whom they were sending these papers - haha!).
Jordan and I spent literally hours filling out these forms and commenting freely. We tried our best to include every possible thing we could think of regarding the children. Thankfully, my Type-A self has kept impeccable records...see, I knew that part of me would come in handy some day :)
What we ask now is that as I am about to overnight this paperwork in just a few minutes that you pray for every set of eyes that read this. Pray that they feel the love we have for our children radiate right off the very paper on which it is printed. Pray that their hearts are softened and open to the needs of these children - whatever they may be. Also, please pray that a decision is made at the end of the hearing so that this does not need to be drawn out any longer.
Just so you know a little about what we are up against, I'll copy in our closing paragraph from the 15 page, single-spaced word document (whew!):
"We understand and are sympathetic to the union and reunion of families. However, it is clear to us and to all others who have met these children that their lifestyle of inconsistency and uncertainty has been detrimental to their well-being. These children have not had ANY consistency in their life (please refer to the list of all the homes and moves they’ve endured) and this is clearly evidenced by their behaviors and insecurities. Since becoming a part of our family we have dedicated 100% of ourselves to these children and their emotional, physical, academic, spiritual, and social growth. They have thrived in a home where all their needs are regularly met, where they are permitted to explore various interests and activities, and where a schedule has been maintained. They have been provided with multiple opportunities and experiences such as but not limited to: family vacations to the beach, amusement parks, hiking, swimming, gymnastics, jujitsu, Sunday school, boating, picnicking, church, and play groups. They are being taught to be a responsible citizen and an irreplaceable family member. We enjoy “doing life” with them so they can understand the value of everyday chores and activities such as: cooking, cleaning, shopping, lawn care, laundry, and pet care. They are a valued member of our family and we strive to make that known to them in words and actions. They are also valued as a child of God, of which we also equally strive to make them aware. We dearly and deeply love these four children. It is our daily prayer and hope that any decision made for them will ultimately be in their best interest only. If these children are not permitted to remain with us, we implore you to ensure ALL their needs continue to be met, appointments be maintained, and consistency be at the forefront of their lifestyle."
While we wait for this hearing, Jordan and I are trying to squeeze in any extra hugs, kisses, and love that we can. I often find myself peeking in on them at night more than I usually do, taking an extra sniff of their hair, or holding their hand just a tad bit longer...just incase.
but these are some beautiful kids!
Her beauty captivates me.
My two little pretty gymnasts.
She ate nearly three full apples!
I know, but she's so photogenic...and beautiful.
Mr. Man with his sugar fix.
The six of us after apple picking in the rain!
Your comment about peeking in more and sniffing their hair brought tears to my eyes. As a fellow Mommy, I felt every emotion of those, and your other, words. I hope that God, in his infinite wisdom, sees fit to keep them with the two of you: you are truly an inspiration and two of the most loving parents I've ever had the pleasure of knowing. Prayers are flowing from this house to yours.
ReplyDeleteI can't express the emotions I felt as I read this last post. Your family continues to be at the top of my prayers. Stay strong Sarah. Your love for your children is expressed so strongly in your words. Send my love to Jordan and the kiddies. Love you!
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ReplyDeleteMay the Lord bless you and keep you and shine His face upon you all. I have no doubt that you (2) have more than changed these sweet babies lives...regardless the outcome. As my heart aches along side yours, I am reminded just as I am in our trials....the Lord loves each and every child more than we are even capable. We are praying that the Lord would allow these for arrows to stay in your quiver. A dear friend wrote something the other day that really struck me: "Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one's youth." Ps. 127:4 Children are the arrows, of course. But I just realized something new about this verse... The parents are the warriors. What kind of warrior can shoot arrows out straight and true? Skilled, disciplined, strong, keen, calm, and wise warriors. The only way we can ever hope to be that is to put full reliance upon the Greatest Warrior and learn from Him." What a wonderful example of that you are. Prayers abounding!
ReplyDeleteMonths ago before your children came to live with you, Chad Oberholtzer contacted me for my info to give to you. We have walked a very similar journey as yours. We did foster-to-adopt with our oldest 3 children (bio siblings). They had been in foster care 9 months prior to them coming to our family - we had them almost 2 full years until they were LEGALLY ours. As I read your blog, I am feeling every step you take again. I remember the "discovery" of those issues that have managed to fall through ALL the homes our children had been in - I remember the ups/downs of the legal system - I remember filling out that paperwork you just filled out. And I remember the prayers that were said on our children's behalf - as soon as Chad filled me in on your story, I began praying for you and your children as you journey this road together. You have filled my prayers as we have just walked the adoption road again for our 6th children - every turn (good or bad) we traveled reminded me to pray for you and your family. It is a journey so few can totally understand, but I have been there. God is FAITHFUL to you and those beautiful children He entrusted to you. His will is ultimately what we want and NEED, but it is so easy to become selfish and want those children to stay in our home. I remember mourning for their birth parents (and all subsequent ones) and at the same time rejoicing in the life God has brought for our family. I am praying, and will continue to pray for your family.
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